A few weeks ago I was reading a post written by Sean Lowe (oh, hello former Bachelor cutie) about an interview Ellen Degeneres did with UFC fighter Ronda Rousey.
After losing a fight that would strip away her undefeated status, Rousey admitted that she felt suicidal. She said seeing her boyfriend reminded her of her greater purpose in life, which is to have his babies someday. If you haven’t seen the interview, check it out here.
Lowe wrote about his hopes for Rousey to find her true identity—one that is beyond a title that rests purely on a child’s shoulders.
While I think that it is incredible that in Rousey’s lowest moment, she felt a call to something greater that inevitably helped pull her from despair, I also know that Lowe is completely on point.
When our purpose in the world is dependent on others or titles (Best UFC Fighter in the World, Mom, Manager, Wife, Writer, etc.) we end up putting an unfair amount of pressure on ourselves.
Our purpose has to be greater than this.
We have to have a deeper meaning in life that is not dependent on titles or other people. Sure, aspirations such as becoming a doctor, singer, teacher, mom, writer, etc. are all great.
Why does it matter? What message will you communicate through those titles or roles? What core values will drive how you live your life, with-OR-without the title/role? When we shift gears by knowing our answers to these questions, we can tap into our greater purpose.
This is no easy task. Growing up, I have vivid memories of wanting to be a teacher and a mom “when I grow up.” We are primed as children to think that having titles and roles equates to success and purpose in life.
I get why we do this. As a former teacher myself, it makes absolute sense why our culture does this as it creates drive and motivation for children as they transition to adulthood.
But what happens when you can’t pass the teacher exam? Or you can’t have a baby? Or you haven’t found your soul mate?
If your worth in the world is dependent on titles and roles, you will feel like a failure when things do not go as planned. You might think you aren’t good enough or that something’s wrong with you.
And this right here is FALSE. [Tough love, girlfriend.]
You are greater than your wins and losses. You are greater than what you have and don’t have.
Don’t be somebody who plays life small and bases your incredible worth on a role or title. You, my friend, are greater than that.